tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-648480292622180743.post4708034920126380063..comments2023-06-25T01:20:35.889-07:00Comments on Very Rarely Stable: A reply to Elliot RodgerDaniel Copelandhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05944461326199566111noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-648480292622180743.post-66478639884482640112014-07-16T21:25:15.460-07:002014-07-16T21:25:15.460-07:00I'm sorry to hear you've been scared. I&#...I'm sorry to hear you've been scared. I'm pleased that my writing has helped you feel even a little bit better.<br />I can do no better than speculate on what elements in our culture are risk factors for hatred, but I'm afraid I'm pretty sure it goes deeper than movies. A few biological facts must be part of the mix -- cis men don't get pregnant and therefore don't always understand why sex is something women don't rush into -- but that can't be the end of it. Misogyny seems to be eroding slowly under pressure from feminism; of course we all wish it would disappear faster. If it was purely a consequence of biological facts, it wouldn't be budging. On the other hand if it was merely a matter of stories and images in the culture, then I'd expect it to have shifted much faster than, in fact, it has. I wish I could say I'd found a way to make men who talk the way you describe realize they want to go home and re-think their lives, but I haven't.<br />Still, thank you for your kind words. If I've made someone feel a little bit better, then at least my writing is having some good effect.Daniel Copelandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05944461326199566111noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-648480292622180743.post-50575654835488026082014-07-15T02:44:50.557-07:002014-07-15T02:44:50.557-07:00Thank you so much for writing this. For such a lon...Thank you so much for writing this. For such a long time I was reading disturbing responses to this event by other men who praised Elliot's actions and agreed with his ideas that women shouldn't be allowed to make their own decisions for themselves because it would push men to do these kinds of things. I saw male acquaintances on Facebook applaud Elliot and wish that things like this could happen more often so women could be "taught a lesson". It is sad that so many men feel this way, because they think that they are the only ones in the female-male relationship that go through this. I know so many other women who have the same problem, but keep their head up and hope to find the "good guys". Maybe it's because of society and the culture we live in encouraging girls to keep pushing through their problems and insecurities to find their "prince charming" and because of the lack of encouragement from similar movies geared toward young boys. <br />Either way, our culture is definitely a problem and it will take a lot of understanding and compassion like yours to get through it. Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts and understanding of this, and never giving up on the compassion and possibility of love and respect from other human beings. It terrified me after reading other men's responses to Elliot's actions, as I was scared to meet or be with or break up with another guy because I didn't want to generate that sort of response from them. And after fearing that, I became even more scared that my inability to let guys into my life would also cause this sort of response. But again, reading this re-established my hope for humanity and the ability to have compassion for others. I know you may never read this and that we may never have a conversation face-to-face, but thank you for making it possible for me to sleep a little easier at night.Jazmynehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05638905437060137708noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-648480292622180743.post-67611418403841732782014-06-18T00:09:32.326-07:002014-06-18T00:09:32.326-07:00Reblogged on WordPress.
Reblogged on WordPress.<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-648480292622180743.post-30796855006031678732014-06-02T21:27:48.866-07:002014-06-02T21:27:48.866-07:00You people are very kind. Honestly, it's one ...You people are very kind. Honestly, it's one thing to write stuff that looks wise, quite another to apply it. For instance, when I say I always understood women were not "mine", I'm telling the truth... but I only learned how to convey that vital understanding by dint of trial and shameful, shameful error. (Intention is not magic.)Daniel Copelandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05944461326199566111noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-648480292622180743.post-84892424598131782822014-05-31T00:10:26.354-07:002014-05-31T00:10:26.354-07:00Entitlement is the conversion of an Envy into an I...Entitlement is the conversion of an Envy into an Injustice. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07139690341184602769noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-648480292622180743.post-1490410843147379832014-05-30T21:13:17.132-07:002014-05-30T21:13:17.132-07:00very well said. the "man hating" stigma...very well said. the "man hating" stigma against feminism is so very obviously silly, but so many people still parrot it! unbelievable. thank you for your amazing insight.Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12212785727220031434noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-648480292622180743.post-3682079198332352152014-05-30T18:03:39.346-07:002014-05-30T18:03:39.346-07:00You are an amazing man at that. Thanks for sharing...You are an amazing man at that. Thanks for sharing your thoughts with the world. <3Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com